These days, romantic relationships are not always easy. They are confronted with numerous obstacles to overcome. Starting with finding someone who is worth loving and who then at best reciprocates your affection truthfully — without playing games or being insincere. Hence, maintaining a connection in which you don’t lose yourself is not always a simple endeavour. The term ‘boysober’ aptly describes the desire to detach oneself from complicated relationships and find oneself again — indeed, to detoxify yourself from destructive behaviour and dating patterns.
The US-American sister duo SkyeChristy released their new single ‘Boysober’ on September 20th, showcasing the intricate emotions associated with the topic that has been previously outlined. ‘Boysober’ follows in the footsteps and is reminiscent of songs such as ‘I’m Not Like Alice.’ The siblings’ first release this year heralds a new era, which still contains the typical elements of their music — mainly the strong, atmospheric melodies, accompanied by honest and unfiltered emotions, portrayed through poetic lyricism — but somehow seems a little more mature and even more developed. The release thus paves the way for more to come.
SkyeChristy are masters at creating a mesmerising atmosphere with their songs, engulfing the listeners and transporting them to another world. ‘Boysober’ is no exception to that. A calming, mystical and hazy soundscape is created by the soulful, breathy and angelic vocal harmonies and ghostly keys of the song, that is primarily dominated by a self-reflections theme.
Serene piano melodies and dreamy vocals accompany the calm and slow start, transporting the listener through candid lyrics into the aftermath of a relationship marked by toxic behaviour and mutual dependence. As the song progresses, the beat picks up and the musical backing and instrumental arrangement become richer, possibly illustrating an increasing despair and pain. Ultimately, the musical composition returns to the beginning of the tune with the calming piano chords — raw and pure, demonstrating the ongoing cycle of toxic relationships and the difficulty of escaping from them.
Self-reflective, the song represents a failed attempt to break away from the connection between two souls, which is unhealthy and full of pain: “Take a step back. See where it all began. How something so good. Hurt so fuckin’ bad (…) But when you call me (call me) I run back to you.” It implies that, despite rationally recognising the negative influence of a connection, you often have to admit to yourself that you cannot easily break away from it, and you are constantly confronted with whether it is easier to leave or stay: “Twelve steps, I’m a little bit closer. But not quite boy sober.”
Simultaneously, however, the track also resonates with a reassuring and motivating message to oneself to free themselves from the grips of harmful liaisons and establish a sense of peace with oneself: “Break this fever, end this sorrow”. It conveys a sense of relief, an awareness of the need to break free and finally let go of the recurring pattern. ‘Boysober’ is therefore an anthem for all those who are tired of being emotionally dependent on a partner and who are ready to prioritise themselves. It’s a plea for acceptance and space to heal. It is the encouragement to no longer seek validation in others, but instead in oneself.
The tune is a poignant depiction of modern dating, illustrated by the beautiful and unique voices of the sisters. The song not only carries a powerful and inspiring message, but also serves as yet another showcase of the duo’s exceptional musical talent.
Written by: Vanessa Svejkovsky
Edited by: Nèri Cliteur
